Coping the Ups and Downs in Life
by Ms. Shamola Wahengbam | 4 November, 2015
We, as adults, sometimes look back on our childhood as a time when we were always happy, but life’s ups and downs are a part of childhood too. To be able to enjoy both good times and deal with hard times is an important lesson every child must learn.
Here are some tips to help children cope with life’s ups and downs:-
Be practical- Look for the practical and positive things your child can do to build skills and increase their chances of success.
Be adventurous- When your child tries lots of different things, they’ll get to know what they are good at and what they enjoy. They’ll also learn that most people do well at some things and not so well at other– and that’s fine. After all, we can’t all be Olympic athletes, computer geniuses or rock gods!
Be Persistent - If your child fails at something; help them understand that everyone makes mistakes. It’s OK if you can’t do something the first time you try. You could share some examples of times that you have failed, or have needed to keep trying at something.
Be a role model- You can be a role model when it comes to confidence. For example, you could talk to your child about what you’re going to do to try to succeed at a task. If it doesn’t work out, you can model resilience by talking about what you’re going to try next time. You can also discuss things you’ve done that might have been scary or tough for you to do, showing your child that you’ve also been through times when you’ve needed confidence.
Be confident- Acting confident is the first step to feeling confident. So you could suggest your child that he makes eye contact with others, is bold, does what he loves, tries not to focus on what he can’t do, and walks away from situations he knows aren’t good.
Practice social skills- If your child feels anxious in social situations, he/she might need some guidance from you. For example, body posture, smiling, connecting with others, showing interest in others’ activities and joining in conversations can help build confidence.
Appreciate the child’s efforts- Praise your child for the effort he put into the activity. You could also suggest some ideas about what he/she could do differently next time.